Passive aggressiveness is one of my all-time most hated things. I absolutely cannot stand it, and I personally take it more hurtfully than someone being straight up aggressive.
I’m sure everyone can agree that passive aggressiveness is one of the worst things. It is the absolute last thing you want to hear from someone you care about in a time of need. When you are dealing with an issue at hand with a loved one, you should communicate and calmly discuss it. If nothing else, yell it out together or yell into a pillow. Passive aggressiveness is essentially a blockade between emotions. It’s like the silent treatment, except worse. It’s one of the most frustrating things to deal with, but thankfully, there are some pretty good methods for getting around it.
If someone you know has a bad habit of being passive aggressive when they are pissed off, you’re not alone. This is one of the hardest things to assess, however, these 6 methods are the easiest and most efficient way for dealing with passive aggressiveness.
1. Notice It Early
Take note of the person who is being passive aggressive towards you. Pay attention to their behavior towards other people, when they are mad, when they are happy, and when they are upset. If you are able to take note of it at the very beginning, it will be much easier to work through. You also will be less inclined to establish it as a norm.
2. Know Their History
Taking note of the history of a passive aggressive person is crucial in dealing with it. Get to know them on a deeper level and understand their passive aggressiveness. They might be passive aggressive because they feel powerless and lacks a strong voice in a challenging environment.
3. Avoid Being a Trigger for Them
If the person is being passive aggressive because they feel powerless or unheard in the situation at hand, make special points that you understand what they are trying to say. Ask questions and request insight. Show that you are truly interested and they might be able to cut out passive aggressiveness as a whole and come to you with the issue at hand directly.
4. Use Humor
Humor has the ability to lighten any situation and it can be used in more scenarios than you think. Humor can be used to shine light on the truth and disarm difficult behavior.
5. Give Them A Chance To Help Solve The Problem
Instead of bickering back and forth and basically having to beg them to tell you how they feel, try giving them a chance to help solve the issue at hand. Make hypothetical solutions and ask them their opinion!
6. Set Consequences to Lower Resistance and Compel Cooperation
While you should be light with the passive aggressive person and avoid being a trigger, you should also remind them of the consequences of being passive-aggressive. Not that you’re going to punish them, but remind of the fact that you can’t fix any issues if you don’t speak up and voice them. Remind them that keeping them in only makes things worse.